Ten years ago Lauren Dunne Astley was killed by her ex-boyfriend. Her father, Malcolm, lives with loss every day.
“People who have had such an experience know that everything is there all the time, hanging on your shoulders,” he said.
He’s spent the past decade working to raise awareness about domestic violence, and on Friday night the message reached the football field at Wayland High School, where Lauren graduated.
Flyers will be handed out, announcements will be made and Wayland and Lincoln-Sudbury players will wear purple, the color of family violence awareness.
Jessica Teperow led a domestic violence awareness session with the team earlier this week.
“Really, the conversation was ‘How do we take the leadership skills that we develop as an athlete and on the pitch, and how do we apply them to be leaders, prevent violence and promote healthy relationships?’ , she said.
“Here at school we call it being honest, and when you see something wrong doing the right thing and stepping in and intervening, and that’s not always the easiest thing to do,” said coach Scott Parseghian, who is also the school’s health and wellness coordinator.
The players in this session were struck by what they learned.
“One of the things that really stood out to me is the statistic that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 5 or 6 men will experience some form of domestic violence,” said Luciano Sebastianelli.
“When one person is the abuser, their world expands while the other’s tends to shrink,” said Finn O’Driscoll.
Sean Goodfellow has been struck by the secrecy surrounding domestic violence.
“All the numbers at the end of the video, and how many people experience it, and how much is behind the doors and we don’t know, and how we need to do something about it,” a- he declared.
Funds will be raised during the match for the Lauren Dunne Astley Memorial Fund, which aims to raise awareness about domestic violence and promote healthy relationships among teens.